Do you believe in fate?
I believe that we create our own fate.
I believe that fate is the creation of our thoughts.
If you’d met me in 2011 you would have agreed that I was a party girl who had lots of friends. I was wild.
I frequently told people that I ‘loved being single’ but really, I was so jealous of all the girls who had these happy relationships.
I thought that when I met a guy then I’d be happy.
At the beginning of 2012 I made a vow to myself to do whatever it took to be happy on my own.
I set some huge goals.
So, there I was with these goals (only weeks into the start of the year) and my Mum starts telling me about this lady she works with that has a son and how they always joke that they should set us up.
I was intrigued.
I hadn’t met anyone new in so long and this guy sounded pretty cool.
“Why hadn’t I met him yet? He lived so close, I knew all these people.. there must be something wrong with him” were the thoughts that went through my head.
As I’m sure you would too, I did a bit of Facebook investigative work and within 2 minutes had found him!
So, me being the ‘confident party girl’ that I was – I added him to Facebook.
Days passed and I still hadn’t had a notification to say he’d accepted. My disappointment turned to annoyance and Negative Nancy (as I refer to my ego) started telling me all these stories… ‘clearly you’re not pretty enough’ ‘obviously he doesn’t like you’… etc.
The weekend came and I drowned my sorrows – no doubt ending back in a dramatic ‘relationship’ with the Wrong Guy (as always).
About 9 months later I found myself at home one night alone.
I’d been back from a holiday to Europe for about 3 months and had recently bought my first home.
I was happy.
I was no longer ‘the party girl’.
I was healthy, energised, excited about life.
As I sat down on the couch that night to cuddle up with my parents dog and watch some TV my phone went off.
I had a friend request.
I’m sure you can probably guess who it was from… yes, my now boyfriend!
It turns out that he never got my friend request!
But, the reason I’m telling you this is because when we make assumptions and when we believe a certain thing we have the potential to ruin opportunities.
I could have got that friend request and not accepted because all those months before I had assumed that he was like all the other guys – an a**hole!
But I was so happy with my life that I chose love that night.
Find YOUR happy using the tools I used.